We all have our own ways of imbibing lessons from life. Some lessons are wrought out of the mistakes we make and by our becoming the wiser for the experience; some we do by observing and assimilating from the experience of others. And then sometimes pithy remarks read in books or quotations shared by friends and family can so fascinate us that we muse and ponder over them till they become a part of our thoughts. Ultimately in each case we grow and evolve. It’s one of the convictions that comes to you from being a teacher ~ life is a constant learning experience. When you keep this ‘open-window-approach’, winds of change keep blowing away any cobwebs that might be settling on your thinking, opinions or even habits! Among the many truths learnt, some palatable some not so palatable, an important one has been about the need to ‘not stress over being less than perfect!’
Three rules learnt on this road of discovery ~
# “The thing that is really hard, and really amazing is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself.” ~ Anna Quindlen
Yes this lesson comes hard, specially when you have grown up being a ‘good child’ who did everything right without complaint and who generally needed no supervision even when still at school! Your grades had to be perfect and if someone else beat you to being top of the class, it was like the end of the world. As you grow older the idea too just keeps growing and causes great stress unless you learn to curb that propensity to be superwoman!!
# “Understanding the difference between healthy striving and perfectionism is critical to laying down the shield and picking up your life.” ~ Brene Brown
There is a subtle difference between being nearly right and exactly right; and knowing how to ignore it when required can lower stress levels all around. The fact is, it is great to strive towards excellence but definitely not worth losing sleep over everything being perfect. Why be “faultless to a fault”~ sometimes you have to learn to embrace and enjoy the imperfections!
# “Instead of waiting for perfection, run with what you do, and fix it along the way.” ~ and you are on your way to learning zen and the art of being less than perfect!